The practice of Loving-kindness,
or metta, can be done in one of two ways: Either intensive prolonged
meditation to develop deep states of concentration or in daily life
at any time one meets with people and animals or thinks about them.
The systematic practice of loving-kindness for deep concentration
as it is practiced in various meditation centres has been presented
already on this site in the Loving-kindness meditation section.
To learn about the radiating of metta to all
beings with children, we have to tap into the store of knowledge accumulated by lay people
and parents. It must be knowledge which has grown out of years of living and loving with
children and young adults. Gregory Kramer, father of three boys, shows us what subtle but
precise adjustments in the standard practice of loving-kindness he was able to anchor it
in the lives of his children. There are three aspect in Mr. Kramer's metta practice with
his sons, which seem particulary important for his sucess:
Parents should know themselves how metta
feels like and be in the habit of radiating it to their children and all beings.
Children should never be coerced into
sending wishes of well-being to themselves or others.
Parents should trust their intuitive
understanding of their children and be flexible enough to adjust the method to the age and
unique personalities of the kids.
There are many wonderful ways to radiate
loving-kindness with children and young adults. I hope that this material will encourage
parents to share their own experiences, successes and obstacles in their family metta